Can Men And Women Be Just Friends?

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The American 1989 romantic comedy movie “When Harry Met Sally” is a movie that has tried to solve the old age long question of whether men and women can be just friends. This question has led researchers to try finding an answer by conducting experiments and surveys in order to establish whether two people of the opposite sex can be just friends.

A research by Bleske and Rechek in the 2000s suggests that there might be hope of men and women being just friends although men have a harder time of keeping their emotions platonic in such relationships.

“In a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, Sapadin asked more than 150 professional men and women what they liked and disliked about their cross-sex friendships. Topping women’s list of dislikes: sexual tension. Men, on the other hand, more frequently replied that sexual attraction was a prime reason for initiating a friendship, and that it could even deepen a friendship. Either way, 62 percent of all subjects reported that sexual tension was present in their cross-sex friendships.”

The truth of heterosexual relationships is that it is next to impossible for a guy to be just friends with a girl. There is always the risk of an attraction developing for him although a woman is less like to develop an attraction to a guy she has already friend zoned. Her believe is that since she does not find him attractive, then the female is mutual. She is more likely to be dependent on him for confidence and relaxation, she doesn’t find anything wrong in giving him a quick kiss or a tight hug. In truth these are seemingly innocent actions actually causes a lot of thoughts to go on in a guy’s head.

If a guy is making an effort to hang out with you, it’s probably not just “as friends”. He’s merely accepting friendship, in lieu of dating you, because it beats the alternative. And what’s the alternative? Having no girl friends, and, therefore, no one to confide in. If a guy is making an effort to hang out with you, it’s probably not just “as friends”. According to an article online, a man is not interested in getting between a girl’s legs only if he falls under any of the four categories listed below:

  • He hooked up with her already.
  • He is not remotely attracted to her.
  • He is in a satisfying relationship (do keep in mind that temptation abounds however)
  • For a man to be friends with a woman, but he has to be a very experienced, very evolved man. (this requires a lot of maturity)

If you are a female reading this, you might want to take the above listed points into consideration and if that guy you believe you have a platonic relationship with doesn’t fall into any of it, he just might be fantasying at night about getting into your pants.

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Lover of fiction and in a constant crave for junk food. I write to express and not to impress. Twitter and IG: @thatboyakinwale
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