On last week’s edition of Tell Tale Thursday, we shared the story of a PAS Reader who is dating three guys and doesn’t know which one of them to choose. If you missed that, you can read it HERE. As usual we want to thank all those that dropped their comments, below is what our in-house-relationship writers thinks on the issue.
Thank you for sending in your relationship issue, find below what our male and female relationship experts think about the issue.
Hello Confused Reader,
First, you brought your confusion upon yourself. This would have been excusable if it were from an 18years old but to know it’s from a graduate and very likely, done with service, not to judge, it’s a no no.
Secondly your affair with Charles, Tom and Tola are all based on superficial attraction, very feeble reasons to fall in love. What are you? A 5-year old who is impressed by every beautiful object? You ever thought of how these guys would feel if they find out about your escapades?
We would only be aiding you if we give an advice or try to put you out of your self-inflicted mystery. You need help and need toadmit it. Work on yourself and let go of the innocent guys. Find yourself, learn to love for the right reasons, learn to be content with loving one and only one person and you would never be confused. Love is not confused.
Hi Rose, clearly you have a thing for handsome men but then love goes beyond just having a fine face. In the case of your relationship with Tom, you are not yet married and he is already beating you, what of when you finally get married and start raising his kids? Domestic violence is wrong and unacceptable and love is no excuse for a man to be beating you. Also, you mentioned he is jobless. Is he making efforts to get a job or he’s satisfied being jobless? These are things you should consider but then we would advice you leave the relationship before he kills you since beating you is normal with him. A man who loves you would not raise his hands on you and even if he does by mistake,it shouldn’t be a continuos act.
For the second guy Tola, you are clearly in love with him but then I think you should increase your level of communication with him. Understand when he’s in a good mood and try talking about what you don’t like in the relationship you should also get his own feedback. Understanding is very crucial in every relationship,know what he wants,when he wants to be alone,and try to be more open with him. We wish you the best in your relationship.
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