On last week’s edition of Tell Tale Thursday, we shared the story of a PAS Reader whose boyfriend wants her to get pregnant out of wedlock. Not only that, this boyfriend is also clingy. If you missed that, you can read it HERE. As usual we want to thank all those that dropped their comments, below is what our in-house-relationship writers thinks on the issue.
Dear reader, we thank you for sending in your relationship issue. Kindly find below what our male and female relationship experts think of the matter
Hello Reader, I had to double read to be sure there was no form of physical abuse. The only abuse here according to this mail is verbal abuse, which to be candid, is peculiar to a lot of us. Although, you can always amicably discuss with your partner, your likes and dislikes. Meanwhile, talking is usually not an instant antidote, but at the long run, with patience and full understanding of your partner, you will always reach your goal.
Dear reader, you obviously have a boyfriend who is the extremely jealous type and this is the indirect reason for most of your issues. You mentioned he insults you a lot, respect is vital in relationships, if he can’t respect you then he does not deserve your love. Also you need to examine yourself and be sure you are not the cause of some unnecessary issues facing your relationship. Don’t give him reasons to suspect you or make him feel insecure about you and your movements. Finally a child outside wedlock is wrong, if he wants a child desperately he should follow the right procedure. I wouldn’t advise you to have a child for him outside wedlock because it is morally and ‘spiritually’ wrong and with the many issues surrounding your relationship he might just want to tie you down with a baby so you need to reduce the many issues you are having before thinking about marriage and then having a baby later on. Wish you the very best on your relationship journey.
Also, you mentioned that your relationship has been faced with ups and downs, issues inclusive; that’s only normal. The beautiful thing is working them out and always coming out stronger than before. No sincere relationship is without an issue at least.
Additionally, your boyfriend of 3 years and 9 months asks for a picture of you and your friend while out is not a bad thing. Some ladies wish for that. You should be used to that and probably even enjoy it. There’s nothing embarrassing about that. If you have been fulfilling that request and decides not to once, it’s only a human thing that he gets furious and reacts that way. Meanwhile, have you checked if you are giving him any reason to be monitoring?
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