On last week’s edition of Tell Tale Thursday, we shared the dilemma of a PAS Reader who finds herself attracted to only good-looking guys but according to her, she seems to have only the ugly ones treating her better. If you missed that, you can read the full issue HERE.
Dearest Funke, I know it is easy for many to say that looks are not everything in and rather you should be considered about the personality of the individual but the truth of the matter is most of us are first attracted by that which we can see before we begin to consider the personality. In your case however, the fact that these guys whom you consider good-looking do not treat you in the right way should be a warning signal to you. Perhaps you need to make sacrifices by not basing your entire judgement on the looks of a guy but rather what you should do is to find someone you are comfortable with and respects you as an individual.
Don’t listen to those who would tell you to go for an ugly guy when really you know you might not be content in such a relationship. Such a relationship would leave you frustrated when the good looking guys come along and you might find yourself cheating. Nobody should ever be used as a substitute and you as a person shouldn’t settle for less as well. List the qualities you want in a man and go by them but do not be so rigid with it that you end up losing a good man.
I wish you the best in your future relationships and hope with you that you end up with that which you desire.
Like the writer, Buchi Emecheta once wrote in her book, Joys of Motherhood, ‘a man is never ugly if he can produce children.’ What you need to ask yourself is if an ‘ugly’ guy treats you like a princess while the so called good looking ones treats you like thrash, who would you rather be with? How long will you suffer for good looks? Remember that beauty fades and the man would not always be as good looking as he is today. What you should do is to find yourself someone you find attractive enough to be with and who comes in a package of decency. Ask yourself this, asides his good looks, what else is he bringing to the table?
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