In House Response To: I Feel Hopeless And It Feels Like Being A Virgin Is A Crime

In House Response To Advice Me Penastory

On the last edition of Tell Tale Thursday, a young lady shared how she feels hopeless with life because she has been unable to get certain achievements in her life and compounded with that, she is beginning to feel the weight of being a virgin. If you missed that, you can CLICK HERE to read. 

We say a big thank you to all those who dropped their comments both on our BBM channel and also on the blog, find below our in house response to the issue:

“Hi miss! Before I say anything else, I want to deeply ask that you forget about suicide. Yes you feel confused but suicide shouldn’t be an option. What happened to the so much faith you had in yourself? Don’t think of ending it all so soon.

Looking at your question, certain questions need to be addressed. You said this year is coming to an end without you achieving anything. Question is, what is achievement to you? Is it just getting a good boyfriend and a university certificate? Life, I believe, is a whole lot more than that. Life has been unfair but believe me, life is unfair to everyone. Just because you’re smart, intelligent and beautiful virgin doesn’t mean every good thing should naturally come to you on a platter of gold. Life doesn’t work that way. You’ve got to actively take what you want and stop being casual about it. Besides, if your friends and siblings are in school, what does that have to do with your own life? I understand the whole idea of getting along but you see, don’t get so desperate to get along that your whole identity and happiness is dependent on what others do.

If it seems being a virgin is a crime, then it means you have the wrong association that makes you feel like a criminal. Shake all that off. Don’t get into a pity party. Stop comparing yourself with your friends, mates or siblings. You are lovely. I know that. You are still 24. Life still lies ahead of you. You’ve got energy. Pick up yourself, clean the tears and strike at life. If it seems no one believes in you, remember that I personally do.”

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About PenAStory

PenAStory is a group of young individuals with a passion for literature who have decided to come together to write under one platform. We seek to educate, inform as well as entertain our readers. Also, because we are targeting young literature lovers, we would like to touch on other interests of their lives hence the relationship category and because we all need a bit of motivation in our lives, we decided inspiration won't be so bad
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